We often measure love by the proximity of the person, by how near they are, sitting next to us.We say, “I love you,” and assume that if that person leaves, the love will fade or disappear. But what if love is not really about the other person at all?Sadhguru, the mystic and yogi, beautifully talks about this idea and challenges the common belief that love is associated to possession, presence, or approval. He suggests that love is not something you get from someone else, but something you become. When you understand this, love stops being fragile.
Quote of the day
Love is a pleasant emotion within you. Even if the other person goes away, you can still experience love
Sadhguru
What does the quote mean?
Sadhguru says that love is not defined by who is around you, but by the quality of your own emotions. He often describes spiritual states in terms of “pleasantness, which means that when your body feels pleasant, it is health; when your mind feels pleasant, it is peace; when your emotions feel pleasant, it is love. So love is not a transaction that involves a give and take, and it is not “I will love you if you stay.” It is a way of being.This means that even if the person you love moves away, ends the relationship, or passes on, the love you felt does not have to vanish. The memories, the care, the warmth- these can remain as a living emotion inside you. You are not dependent on their presence to keep loving.
His idea is highly relevant today
In the present time, relationships are more fluid than ever. People move cities for work, friendships shift over social media, and breakups are common. If love is seen only as something that exists when the other person is present, then every separation feels like a loss of love itself. This creates anxiety, clinginess, and fear.So it is important to understand :
- We can love without trying to control the other person.
- We can grieve a separation without feeling that our capacity to love has died.
- We can stay open to new relationships without being hardened by past losses.
